Chase the morning, yield for nothing.

fluffixation:

okay so this is the “im too tired to think correctly but need to get this said” version of my thoughts on the Monosexuals and their privilege ™ STUFF

i am a bi woman and comin at this from the persepective of “this is mostly a problem that pits women against women” cause i havent seen this turn anywhere close to bi men vs gay men ok

i get where the idea came from: the idea that women attracted to men and women arent Queer Enough. i get that, ive felt it, it sucks and we shouldnt have to feel like that.

BUT HOLY SHIT, THERE IS NO ACCEPTABLE REASON FOR US TO HAVE TURNED IT AROUND INTO WHAT ITS BECOME
which, for those who havent noticed, is “lesbians are the enemy bc they only like one gender which makes them not queer enough”

LIKE. NO. FUCK YOU, THAT IS WRONG. and lesbians deserve SO MUCH BETTER FROM US THAN THIS.

first of all, the idea of not queer enough is not something that ANYONE with non hetero attraction EVER needs to feel

second, yall think youre being radical with this shit? sorry, no. lesbians are ostracized by a huuuuuuuuge number of ppl BECAUSE THEY DONT GO FOR MEN. to be honest, i think THAT is a real big huge marker of what lgbtqia+ oppression looks like and does to ppl, because lesbophobia works heteronormativity AND male centric focus into one nasty ugly force that stomps right on lesbians and marks them for hatred coming from everywhere

so, in crying monosexual privilege, youre saying lesbians arent queer enough or worthy to be seen as queer as you are, WHICH IS FACTUALLY INCORRECT AND HATEFUL AS SHIT.

so lets not play oppression olympics against people we should be standing beside, fighting for, defending and protecting just as hard as we fight for ourselves, please? just drop this concept, because its harmful and it sucks.

we each face our own unique kinds of oppression, and we should fight those things together and defend one another from outside hate and oppression from straight ppl.

not… not do this shit.

not responding to any hate or anger i get for this.

grimdarkpawprints:

grimdarkpawprints:

kinky ppl pulling the no true scotsman thing about bdsm and abuse, y’all really fucking piss me off.

like no. stop that. right now. you’re wrong.

hi, i am a kink-inclined person. specifically, a submissive woman in a d/s relationship, who has been in and out of bdsm communities on the internet and face to face. who has had experiences both good and bad with these communities. and i’m here with a reality check, hello! 

abuse does happen in bdsm communities, OFTEN. that’s the truth of the matter. bdsm is a fucking playground for predatory ppl who want to excuse their behavior as being run of the mill dominance. a WHOLE LOT OF PEOPLE gloss over when dom-type folks abuse sub-type folks especially because of the power dynamics. THAT IS INEXCUSABLE AND IT NEEDS TO STOP.

stop saying 50 shades “isnt real bdsm because it’s abuse.” yes it’s a poorly written book. yes the execution of bdsm dynamics is piss poor. yes we should be ashamed to be associated with it.

BUT

that shit happens too often in real life and IT GETS EXCUSED AND BRUSHED OVER because of the nature of the relationship. THAT HAS TO FUCKING STOP. IMMEDIATELY.

get your goddamn act together and police your communities. do not let the word of an abused person go unheard. defend victims and survivors at all costs. do NOT allow places of safety for abusers.

ESPECIALLY STOP prioritizing an abusive dom-type person’s word over a sub-type person who speaks out against an abuser. AND don’t think that sub-type people can’t be abusive as well.

just. holy fucking shit. we need to be more fucking responsible. stop pretending it doesn’t happen and ACT TO MAKE IT FUCKING STOP.

this has been a psa type thing. stay safe, don’t drink and drive, etc. i’m off the soapbox now, bye.

with You Know What: The Movie two weeks away now, I think I’m gonna bring this post back.

okay so this is the “im too tired to think correctly but need to get this said” version of my thoughts on the Monosexuals and their privilege ™ STUFF

i am a bi woman and comin at this from the persepective of “this is mostly a problem that pits women against women” cause i havent seen this turn anywhere close to bi men vs gay men ok

i get where the idea came from: the idea that women attracted to men and women arent Queer Enough. i get that, ive felt it, it sucks and we shouldnt have to feel like that.

BUT HOLY SHIT, THERE IS NO ACCEPTABLE REASON FOR US TO HAVE TURNED IT AROUND INTO WHAT ITS BECOME
which, for those who havent noticed, is “lesbians are the enemy bc they only like one gender which makes them not queer enough”

LIKE. NO. FUCK YOU, THAT IS WRONG. and lesbians deserve SO MUCH BETTER FROM US THAN THIS.

first of all, the idea of not queer enough is not something that ANYONE with non hetero attraction EVER needs to feel

second, yall think youre being radical with this shit? sorry, no. lesbians are ostracized by a huuuuuuuuge number of ppl BECAUSE THEY DONT GO FOR MEN. to be honest, i think THAT is a real big huge marker of what lgbtqia+ oppression looks like and does to ppl, because lesbophobia works heteronormativity AND male centric focus into one nasty ugly force that stomps right on lesbians and marks them for hatred coming from everywhere

so, in crying monosexual privilege, youre saying lesbians arent queer enough or worthy to be seen as queer as you are, WHICH IS FACTUALLY INCORRECT AND HATEFUL AS SHIT.

so lets not play oppression olympics against people we should be standing beside, fighting for, defending and protecting just as hard as we fight for ourselves, please? just drop this concept, because its harmful and it sucks.

we each face our own unique kinds of oppression, and we should fight those things together and defend one another from outside hate and oppression from straight ppl.

not… not do this shit.

not responding to any hate or anger i get for this.

cuttlefishculler:

breaking it off with negative people is a really good thing to do. but it’s also really dificult and it can be painful, isolating, and socially disruptive to more than just thefriend group

so it’s Really Cool that we’re promoting the idea of cutting off negative influences but it’s Not So Cool that we’re implying everyone can do it and either live without a support network or magically conjure new, non-shitty friends from the aether

(Source: cuttlefishlovr)

Anonymous asked: can you explain why it's okay to be selfish sometimes??? my boyfriend gets really sad and he feels like he's really selfish for doing completely normal things (like, he thought he was the most selfish person in the world when he bought himself a soda and asked for a hug on the same day. i don't get him) like can you just explain why it's okay to do stuff for yourself so i can show it to him

killyouranxiety:

sometimes being selfish is the least selfish thing you can do as funny as it sounds. think about it though, you’re the only person you can always ask to take care of yourself, by taking care of yourself you’re not asking other people to take care of you. and sometimes it’s ok to ask other people to take care of you, as long as you keep in mind their needs as well. forgoing your own wellbeing doesn’t help anyone, you can’t help others if you’re not in good shape yourself. the people who love you want you to be happy and healthy, asking for a little help sometimes isn’t bad and doing things for yourself to keep yourself healthy mentally and physically isn’t just not bad, it’s good. one more thing: if you have someone who loves you and likes hugs, chances are they want to hug you. it’s not like you’re taking away their hug supply by asking for one. you can’t be selfish by asking for something that someone has an unlimited supply of!!